Visionary does that word scare you? I remember the first time someone called me a visionary woman I rejected the thought immediately believing that she had not read through my bio. My mind conjured up visions of a woman dressed in gypsy style clothing sitting behind a crystal ball or reading Tarot cards foretelling the future. That certainly had no connection to me or what I do.
When it came up yet again I felt compelled to look up the definition and to my surprise it was quite different than I thought,
visionary; a person with an original ideas about what the future could be.
That could be any of us. Since that time years ago the words have come to have great meaning not only for me but the many women I touch.
I now understand that the world is in desperate need of visionary women and I do everything I can through The Tenth Woman and my books, writing and speaking to increase that number.
There is a shift occurring, a change of thinking, a change of heart, a change from simple contrition to a personal engaged contribution, a calling to be a part in this changing the world.
To become a visionary woman takes a bit of work, not physical work but wonderful work on enlightening your heart, soul and then sharing that illumination with the world.
This four part series is all about accepting your place as a visionary woman and beginning your journey. Simply put, I am asking you to join the spiritual evolution. This has nothing to do with religion but is simply put examining the pieces that make up, you!
These pieces are thoughts and ideas that are applied differently in each of our lives. These countour of these pieces may change as you examine them and allow yourself insight and awareness.
Joining me on each week’s short journey will enlighten you to the brightest parts of yourself. You will begin to imagine life beyond its current state and reach out to change not only the world but your church, workplace, and your family. It is far beyond a selfish process of focusing on one’s self because of the far reaching benefits from sharing your enlightenment.
A new world awaits those who seek what lies behind the unopened doors of our mind.
This is another door that you must walk through as we continue our journey. I hope that you will stay with me through the process and share your thoughts so others who may be uncomfortable beginning or joining in the process will feel welcome to this safe place and join us. Sharing your thoughts brings to light new ideas and thoughts and benefits all of us.
You may also ask questions via the comment section of the Inner Circle Blog as I will be monitoring it closely for the next few weeks.
So let’s begin.
The first piece we will discuss will be the ability to be comfortable with uncertainty or comfortable being uncomfortable.
What does that mean? It means trusting and letting go of the notion that we have control. We all can become seduced by the false sense that we are the masters of our destiny. We are not.
The whisper of the unknown is part of the adventure of life, but it is also something we don’t eagerly embrace. If we listen closely we hear the whisper of fear in our hearts and mind. Removing fear of uncertainty in your life changes everything.
Once you learn to accept this feeling, you can risk trying anything, becoming creative and free in ways you never imagined. Your ego retreats into the shadows and your spirit moves into the light.
As Ekhart Tolle said “When you become comfortable with uncomfortable, infinite possibilities open up in your life.”
It means not always needing to see the entire staircase to be able to take the first steps, helping others without hesitation and loving people who do not love you back. Unless we are aware we will continue to try controlling the uncomfortable feeling by seeking safe, secure and predictable outcomes in a search for comfort and safety.
George Kelly a noted psychologist believes that it is a biological urge for us to seek predictable and safe. Our ancestors lived with constant uncertainty, craving safety from the dangers of wild animals and tribes competing for limited food and resources. It is therefore logical that those innate feelings would permeate to us, even though we would find them no longer as useful because most of us live relatively safe lives.
We now use that fear to build walls and create elaborate strategies so we don’t have to feel the pain of uncertainty, allow opinions we create or receive from others to prejudice us and allow our emotions take the lead. By acknowledging these feelings but not allowing them to affect the outcome you are opening space in your mind.
We all seek someone or something to tether to. Even those of us who have worked long and hard on this issue become anxious and confused when we see no predictable path to follow or become disappointed when what we anticipated will happen doesn’t and we find ourselves without a clear vision of the future.
This is where belief and trust comes in. If you can be present in the moment that fear comes to you and intervene in the process you will learn to stop and ask yourself if fear of the uncertainty is warranted. The answers if brought forth with honesty and awareness will allow you to see that uncertainty is not scary at all but allows you to be present to make a choice.
Pema Chodron teachings encourage us to experiment being comfortable with uncertainty by living in the moment, being present and allow openness. Instead of filling in all the gaps, allow there to be space.
One example might be how uncomfortable it becomes when you are with an individual or even a group and there is space where no one speaks. It is in these very times that allowing the space, being in the moment while not allowing your mind to search for something to say gives you practice being comfortable with the uncomfortable.
I recently was blessed to spend some one-on-one time with an amazing visionary woman, Kamala Easton. She is a powerful spiritual teacher and so I would not miss a moment the meeting was taped and I could refer back to our conversation later. In reviewing the tape I was shocked to realize that there was much time that we did not speak but were comfortable in silence. It is a testament that neither of us felt compelled to fill the time with unnecessary words, so not to be uncomfortable.
This week look for moments in your day where you feel uncomfortable and consciously move through them. Begin to apply this principal to your life every day. Help another without anticipating a thank you or take a risk by saying something nice to a stranger without waiting to hear a response.
And then join us again next week as we move to finding our sacred path.
Love and Blessings for a beautiful week.