If you have taken the journey with us, I hope that you have come closer to seeing the importance of going with the flow of life. Understanding this lesson can set you on a path to happier and healthier days.
Well I have a curve ball for you today. You may believe that going with the flow entails learning to give up all control, allowing a carefree existence, but that is not true. To allow yourself the gift of flowing with life requires you to have control.
Yes, I know it certainly seems contrary to exert control while simultaneously letting yourself relax and go with the flow of life. How can you do both?
It’s impossible to completely relax, enjoy the beauty all around you and enjoy the ride if you feel you have no control. That is why a good sturdy pair of oars allows us to remain in control while joining the flow.
I don’t mean oars literally, but it may be easier for you to think of guidelines you create as your oars. Possessing a sturdy pair of oars will allow you to steer clear of danger, slow down or change course when you feel you are moving too fast and remain confident that you are traveling in the direction you have decided is your destination.
These guidelines are created by you in times of peace and calm. At these times you can think more clearly.
How many times do we find ourselves repeating the same pattern simply because we have nothing to refer to or remind ourselves that we have learned this lesson already? Drawn in again and again to situations that we swear we will never find ourselves in. By establishing some guidelines to follow, allows us total awareness and choice.
There are so many instances that we find ourselves in where those oars come in handy; from picking the wrong guy to date to being drawn into drama that others create. It is imperative that you establish the point where you need to stick those oars in the water and slow down.
One area that I personally had to learn to stick my oars in the water for was learning to say NO! I realized that I was always saying yes no matter the cost and it was impacting me negatively. Again and again the word yes blurted from my lips as if I was just waiting for something to add to my packed schedule.
I finally learned to throw my oars into the water and create some guidelines. I needed those oars to allow me the opportunity to think the request through and look at the impact it had on my happiness and well being before responding.
It was the beginning of liberating myself to go with the flow of life while controlling the direction I was moving in. Learning to write your guidelines down as awareness comes to you and then working to accomplish them one at a time gives you motivation to continue making changes which will allow you to truly enjoy your life.
You need to be aware there is a difference between people that actively work at choosing the direction of their life by using their oars and those that just spend their life swept away by the fast moving current refusing to accept that they have a choice.
That difference is profound when we reach the end of the river and look back at the entirety of our lives.
We will realize that for everyone of us there have been days of beautiful sunshine and days of terrible storms, days of happiness and days of sadness, days of abundance and days of scarcity, days of darkness and days of light and that these were the circumstances of our life but they do not define our life.
We define our life each and every day we are alive by choices we make and one of the biggest choices was the decision to grab some oars and spend the rest of our days directing our life with a grateful heart as we gently flow into the sunset of our lives peacefully ~sacredly ~ happily.
Love and blessings!