I believe I know a lot about happiness. I have read oodles of statistics and have done tons of research and I even have an entire chapter devoted to it in one of my books. Even with all that I have come to the conclusion that studying the reasons why someone is happy or unhappy will not make you happier.
It really all boils down to what we as individuals choose. We can know all the scientific reasoning but until we decide to be happy, and make a conscience decision to not allow things that make us unhappy linger within our thoughts, nothing will change.
Unhappiness can be a result of how we perceive the state of the world and our own lives. We may feel it is wrong to be happy and sometimes it is easier to just remain unhappy when the world seems a mess and there are wars and catastrophes around the world covered 24/7 on the news. However, when things are going well we forget to remind ourselves that we can return to being happy. Each time we have a cycle of bad events we seem to lose a few more optimists who convert to the pessimist view, that there is always something bad happening somewhere and to not betray humanity and to remain empathetic we must remain unhappy.
Does remaining unhappy actually change the world for the better? I believe it does not. The world needs happy optimistic people that refuse to give in, that is the fuel that keeps us seeking new ways to make the world a better place for everyone.
So where do we begin being happier? We can start by following some insights from Robin Sieger who created the Happiness Factor. He analyzed the pieces of our lives that can contribute to making us happier.
People with high self esteem are naturally happier. This makes perfect sense, if you like yourself you don’t have to spend time thinking about all the things you don’t like and need to change, leaving you time to be grateful for who you are.
Happy people are more optimistic. This seems reasonable; if you always think the glass is half full you never need to worry about it being completely empty.
People who are happier have close friends and satisfying relationships. Now again, this is a no brainer. If you are happy of course people are going to want to be your friend, and if you are always the sunshine in a relationship it will naturally be more satisfying than dating a curmudgeon.
Faith plays a strong part in being happy as well so it makes sense that happy people are filled with faith because they are optimistic that there is a Higher Power and trust that everything will be alright. Consequently, they don’t need to worry about fixing everything.
Happier people generally sleep better and are healthier. That is because they have time to care for their well being because they are not watching all the catastrophes on television and thinking about how they need to figure out a way to fix everything.
On February 11th we will all celebrate World Happiness Day. I hope you will join me and for one day choose to be happy. Focus on being kind, loving yourself, and embracing optimism. Do something fun to honor your friends and loved ones and believe that for one day the world will be just fine. Take time to care for your well being by taking a nap and maybe even getting in a little exercise.
This is the recipe for happiness not just one day a year but everyday of our lives. We all know that the world will never be saved by unhappy, pessimistic people, and that to make a difference we need faith and lots of happy, optimistic people joining together. I am counting on you all to join me in spreading goodness and happiness. We need to change the world and our combined conciseness from one of sadness and unhappiness to happiness and joy begins on the first of many days of intentional happiness.