How often do we find ourselves struggling to find the right answer? We make decisions hundreds of times each day. Most of our decisions are inconsequential and are more of a reaction. Some of our decisions require a bit of thinking but are not the ones we struggle with. Then there are those that cause a tug of war between our mind and our heart. Our mind takes over and with it ushers in the complicating factors of ego and rationalizing the answer. Somehow in that battle our heart usually loses out.
You see the heart quietly plays the sweet gentle music that must be listened for purposely and intently. Those beautiful songs can become drowned out so easily by the egos constant drumbeat and the more accustomed we become to the continuous monotone of that steady beat, the more we decide to go for the easy way out and look away. It begins to feel comfortable and becomes a safe place to retreat.
The heart on the other hand cannot compete with the noise and I fear the noisier the world becomes, the less we are reminded to listen to that gentle music of our hearts. The heart offers no safety from the pain the world presents to us. There is pain in explaining to your child there are events that go on in the world that you can’t begin to understand, it is painful to look into faces of hungry children and abused animals. There is no escaping the reality of illness and death; it is a part of living, fully knowing that tomorrow is promised to no one and that the hour glass is tipped over and the sand is slipping through the narrow opening each moment of each day.
The problem lies in that we cannot filter our hearts, it is impossible to selectively numb pain while allowing deep immeasurable love to come through. To love beyond measure, you also must feel pain. We all have become used to turning away from things that we are uncomfortable with; deciding it is much easier to ignore or rationalize in our mind that there is nothing we can do to change the outcome, rather than allow that pain to touch you deeply.
You must not turn away. As painful as it may be look into the face of the homeless man walking by you on the street, if you dare look, you will see in his face the face of your son or brother because he is someone’s son and brother. Dare to watch the news and feel sadness for a soldier’s last journey home, a hero whose coffin is draped in an American flag. It is in these moments that you look at your own children and all faults disappear, you become filled with gratitude and joy for the blessing of their presence.
Love knows. Our hearts know. There is a reason for sadness and pain and it is so we can feel extraordinary happiness and joy.
Please allow yourself to become captured by your heart. Don’t be afraid to feel everything; you are cheating yourself if you allow the fear of pain to keep you a spectator standing on the shore. Immerse yourself in the depths the security love provides, that place of calm and peace within your spirit, that is where your true self will be found.
The world has too many people standing at the shore in silence watching; when what we need is more people daring to venture into the depths of the water with tears in their eyes, quietly singing along with the beautiful song they hear playing in their hearts.