Valentine day is almost upon us. The day when even the hardened among us gives in and is smitten by the notion of romance. Candy and flowers, cards extolling prose of love and passion. But we all know that the love that carries us safely through each day of the year is not about candy and flowers and few of us wake up to love poems being read to us each morning.
So what is it that keeps us moving forward working to create extraordinary relationships?
I have found that the most amazing relationships are seldom created when we are looking for someone to fill a need or upon finding the one person willing to prove to us that we are loved, again and again. But rather when we find the individual that will enhance who we truly are in our strongest moments.
In times of loneliness, when we have been hurt or are sad we are more likely to choose a partner that fills that need in the short term, but may not be the best choice as we grow and change.
Finding a partner that challenges us to be and become the most we can, one who sees the inevitable glimmer of weakness but who also sees and appreciates our strength. That one person who continues to push us higher while willing to grow and change with us, is most often attracted to us when we are strong of spirit.
What if you are in a relationship that was created in a time of need? Begin by working on yourself to become strong and self reliant. Yes the dynamics of the relationship will change but as long as you are gentle and kind in the transition from needing someone to choosing to be with that person, you will come through it stronger. This is the first step in creating the strong foundation on which you can build a loving union free of conditions.
And if you are blessed to be in a relationship where you both choose to be present and require no conditions or proof? Then you will be able to keep building higher and higher. You see just like the foundation of a building the deeper you dig the more sturdy and strong your foundation, the taller you can reach without worry or fear of the entire structure toppling over.
Together we will continue on this journey for the next few weeks working to create amazing relationships and as promised all Inner Circle Members will receive a special gift on Valentine’s Day.